elfpirate

[b]Why on earth, if you've chosen to be with someone, would you cheat on them?[/b] [b]If it's a loveless marriage-- leave it. Duh. [/b] [b]I guess I think that the institution of marriage is rather meaningless in and of itself, except for the legal protections that it offers (such as being able to make decisions regarding your loved one's medical treatment if they are for some reason unable to do it themselves).[/b] [b]I just don't agree that the state has to proclaim your love for someone with a legal document.[/b] [b]I also don't agree with marriages of convenience, because I think that if you choose to be married legally, it should only be after you've chosen to be married spiritually.[/b] [b]I will probably never get legally married, unless I fall in love with someone, make a commitment to be theirs forever and they just happen to be a non- citizen. Then, I might, for fear of my love being deported when their Visa expires...:animesmil (or vice- versa) [/b] [b]I just don't want to have to get a legal document mandating who I can love... I don't even like the idea of having to have a social security # to do business...[/b]

[b][size=1]My first real experience with death was when I was about 10 or 11 years old.[/size][/b] [b][size=1]I was doing that door-to-door sales thing for a fundraiser at my school, and knocked on my neighbor's door to peddle some nasty confection or another, and heard a lot of crashing and bumping around in her apartment.[/size][/b] [b][size=1]Two days later, they were dragging her corpse out of there, and the cops (or coroner--I don't quite recall) said that she had been strangled to death... about two days before.[img]http://skins.hotbar.com/skins/mailskins/em/050103/050103shock_prv.gif[/img][/size][/b] [b][size=1]I found out later that the man who had murdered her was a serial killer (I saw his profile on America's Most Wanted). She was his second kill, and by the time AMW profiled him, he had killed about 10 more women. Last I heard, they hadn't caught him yet. Scary![/size][/b] [b][size=1]As far as losing people who are close to me... um... sorry, I know that's what this thread was supposed to be about, but I just can't go into that. I don't have the heart for it. [img]http://skins.hotbar.com/skins/mailskins/em/033102/033102broken_prv.gif[/img][/size][/b]

[quote name='Jung-Woo][color=royalblue][font=Palatino Linotype]Okay, that's fine if you REALLY come from a neighborhood like that. (Well, okay it's really not, but never mind, you get what I mean.) [/font'][/color][/quote] [b]The area I'm in right now (I just moved to where my family is *cringes*) is getting worse, and there is a lot of violence around here, but it's nothing like the places I come from.[/b] [b]But it [i]IS fine.[/i] Even in the 'hoods where the ghetto choppers are buzzing your house every night, spotlighting your yard for the random shooter who's hiding in your backyard, there are many good people.[/b] [b]Heh... some of those gangsta thugs are really decent kids who've been through hell since they were tiny... and that is most definitely something I can relate to...[/b] [b]So, yeah-- I come from those kinds o' 'hoods, but I respect where I come from.[/b] [b]After a while, you tend to shrug off the gun shots unless they're on the same block or in your yard.:animesigh [/b] [b]Not that it's okay-- but you do get used to it.[/b]

[QUOTE=IceWolfEyes] Looks like I'm part of the minority in this thread, being Jewish. [/QUOTE] [b]IceWolfEyes ha ba bayeet! Shalom!:animesmil [/b]

[quote name='Morpheus'] I know a girl that has a metal stud in her eyebrow and it looks horrible. The skin is stretched and red.[/quote] [b]*heh*... sounds like whomever pierced her didn't do it right or she neglected to take care of it. In either case, it does look awful when a piercing ain't quite right...[/b]

[QUOTE=MistressRoxie][color=#9933ff]Do you really have Bi-polar tendancies, elfpirate? [/color] [color=#9933ff][/color] [color=#9933ff]My self-esteem is terribly low. I really do feel like I'm worthless sometimes, too. The feeling that I'm so insignificant, if I were to die tomorrow, no one would care. I'm probably the only one who thinks that way. >_>[/color][/QUOTE] [b]Yeah, I'm Bipolar... AND I suffer from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Sux!:animeangr [/b] [b]Sometimes it's hard to tell which symptoms are from which disorder, too... since they both dramatically affect moods, sleep patterns, etc...[/b] [b]You are definitely not the only person who thinks that way. In fact, I'd say that at least 75% of the people I know feel that way on a regular basis... including myself. [/b] [b]And trust me- there are plenty of people who would care if you died... [/b]

[QUOTE=EVA Unit 100]Obviously there's almost no chance he'd have any interest in me. [QUOTE] [b]And [i]why[/i] should that be obvious?[/b] [b]I've gotta say- if you give up on having a chance with him, you [i]won't[/i] have a chance with him. You need some self- confidence, to be sure... [/b] [b]Self-confidence is a sexy attribute... but selling yourself short [i]definitely [/i]isn't.[/b] [b]Just tell him the truth and give [i]him[/i] the opportunity to decide whether he's interested in you or not- don't make up his mind for him before you've even told him how you feel.[/b]

[quote name='Pumpkin][font=Georgia][size=2][i]First off, I have to say that how many times are people going to say one thing and then the other? I see many people switching sides, and then going "Oh but I agree with this person, oh no wait, its perfectly okay" just make up your mind already. [/i][/size'][/font][/quote] [b][color=darkred]I had to change my mind after reading her responses that came after my post... my perspective changed in light of new information... voila!- my mind is made.[/color][/b]

[QUOTE=Panda] My grandpa had a DNR order towards the end of his life. We honored that. [QUOTE] [b]My mother and one of her sisters honored their mother's DNR order... a wish that she had made clear for decades... and now, their other sisters won't talk to them, because they "murdered" my grandmother. Stupid, neh?[/b]

[quote name='Sol-Blade] If there is abosolutely no chance that, the victim will recover...no matter how close this person is to me, if the choice was up to me, I would take them off. It may seem harsh to some, but clinging on to something with little or no possiblity of it happening just seems a little...for lack of a better word...[i]pointless[/i'] in my opinion.[/quote] [b]I used to think that way, too... but then I thought: If it were my child, I would probably have a truly hard time letting go. [/b] [b]I would want him there so I could hold his little hand and kiss his little cheek... it would be so hard to let go and never be able to see his face or to touch him again... even if he didn't know I was there.[/b]

[b][size=1]Brilliant... absolutely brilliant![/size][/b] [b][size=1]Put it to music and it will become a pussy-lover's anthem, to be sure...:animesmil [/size][/b] [b][size=1][/size][/b] [b][size=1]I love pussies, too, but they can get a little messy sometimes...[/size][/b]

[b][size=1]I think my hair has been every colour imaginable...[/size][/b] [b][size=1]I usually change it about every six months or so, but more often than not, it's some form of blue or it's a bright spring green... and occasionally it's both...[/size][/b] [b][size=1][/size][/b] [b][size=1]Right now, my hair is dreaded and it's both green and blue... I like my hair colour to look like the sea, and I think I did a pretty good job of that.[/size][/b] [b][size=1][/size][/b] [b][size=1]The only problem is that my natural haircolour is really dark, so I have to strip all the colour out if I want the haircolour to look like it's supposed to. It totally fries my hair. If it wasn't in dreads, it would probably look pretty frizzy and ugly, but with dreads, it's kind of hard to tell how damaged the hair actually is...[/size][/b]

[QUOTE=ChibiHorsewoman][color=darkviolet]Which brings me back to my original question, how can a child be sinful. YOu see, I was taught that when you don't know something that you're doing is wrong that it's not a sin. Inherited sin is pretty stupid. It's even worse when parents decide to tell their children that they're sinful.[/color][/QUOTE] [b]I agree that inherited sin is stupid... and that a child can't be sinful, but that's what original sin is all about- [/b] [b]Because Adam and Eve sinned, we are all (supposedly) sinners from birth, and only being baptised and born again (or something like that) can wash away the sin that you're born with.[/b] [b]Of course, this is only a belief held by certain religious sects, not all of them. And I definitely have a problem with the whole idea of original sin... especially because Jesus supposedly died for our sins... so the inherited ones shouldn't be there, right?[/b]

[quote name='James][color=#b0251e'] Realistically I know I'm a reasonably intelligent and level-headed person; I have no real reason to lack confidence. But I often do.[/color][/quote] [b]Me, too- minus the level-headed part... I often question how level-headed I really am... lol.[/b] [b]It's a strange thing to be able to recognise that you're an intelligent, talented, likeable person... yet still harbor such an intense self-loathing and self-doubt... [/b] [b]It seems that you shouldn't be able to feel that way when, intellectually, you know you probably have no reason to feel so horribly about yourself...[/b] [b]but that's just not the way it works...:( [/b]

[QUOTE=Jung-Woo][color=royalblue][font=Palatino Linotype]Most Native ("First" according to Pres. Bush) Americans around here are wannabes. Most of them think that they are "ghetto" and act like they live in a neighborhood where dodging bullets is nothing. And I can't stand it, I cannot stand my own peers. My own cousin talks, walks and acts like he's 50 Cent or something. It's stupid, I just don't get why being a Native American is that boring that you have to act like someone else. I'm not accepted by them, because I don't act like them. [/font][/color][/QUOTE] [b]Tee hee! It's the same way with the Native Americans around here... but I tend to get along with them (and they with me) just fine... maybe it's because I come from those dodge-the-bullets kinds of 'hoods (it was only about two months ago in front of my house [before I moved [i]here[/i]] that I was nearly caught in the crossfire of two carloads of gangsters... I was no more than 10 feet from the shooters... eeps!).[/b]

[quote name='EVA Unit 100']Overall piercings and tattoos look good in small-medium quantities. Maybe a large tattoo would look good on someone if it really fit them, but once you become Lizard Man they look butt-ugly.[/quote][b]It's all a matter of personal opinion... I'm sure that there's many people who find Lizard Man attractive... (yikes)[/b] [b]I personally think that it all depends on your preference for design and placement when it comes to both tattoos and piercings.[/b] [b]For instance, having a Maori-style facial tattoo can be quite attractive, in my opinion, as long as it's done well, with the structure of the face in mind. [/b] [b]I mean, when you design a tattoo for a particular part of the body, attention should be paid to [i]complimenting[/i] the particular features of that body part, not over-riding them. [/b] [b]For instance, if you're designing a tattoo for a woman's torso, it will look much better if the tattoo design incorporates curving lines, etc... to [i]accentuate[/i] her form, rather than to draw attention away from it.[/b] [b]The idea of body art is to make your body a piece of art... not just to [i]wear[/i] art. If you want to wear art, buy a cool shirt...[/b] [b]I have a number of piercings and tattoos, but they are well-placed and I have been careful to have them accentuate my features, not draw the gaze away from them.[/b] [b]Even my earlobes, which are stretched to a little bigger than 1/2 an inch, have retained their beauty and don't look gaudy... or creepy...especially with the fat pirate rings [/b][b](:D yay!) that go through the eyelets.. and the two other rings in each ear.[/b] [b]My nose is pierced (through the cartilage of the septum) with a 6-guage ring, and I have a labret. [/b] [b]I also wear two tiny rings on either side of my bottom lip, which lay entirely flush against the lip, so they look like subtle silver lines of lipstick. [/b][b]And... I have my nips and my tongue pierced.[/b] [b]All of my piercings were well thought out, and I've done all of them myself over the years (since way before the whole "grunge" thing was popular, so it was considered [i]really[/i] freaky/unusual to be pierced back then... but I was always into the traditional tribal thing, so I didn't care what people thought...) [/b] [b]Most of them have special significance outside of being a form of self-expression, too. I'm all about incorporating meaning into your piercings and tattoos.;) [/b]

[quote name='wrist cutter']But who is going to make such a rule? It's not like they're going to impose something like this on you at school or work anytime soon. The only place such a rule could be imposed on you is at some entirely voluntary place, in which I suggest you leave rather than attempt to follow it. You can't compare "wipe your *** with throwing stars" with "no card games at school".[/quote] [b]Okay, sure- hopefully no one would make such a rule, and it wasn't intended to be comparable to playing cards at school.[/b] [b]My point was that there ARE stupid rules... and sometimes, we choose not to follow a rule because it's just plain ridiculous. I mean- spitting in public is illegal in a lot of states, but I bet everyone has done it at some point or another... and there are few who would hold a big nasty goober that they coughed up in their mouth until they got home, just to uphold that law.[/b]

[b]I've noticed a lot of people on the OB saying things about being unpopular and how they are losers, etc... and it seems to me that there are plenty of self-esteem issues.[/b] [b]So I was wondering:[/b] [b][color=darkred]On a scale of one to ten, where would you rate your self-esteem, and why?[/color][/b] [b]It really depends for me- when I'm on the downward spiral of my bipolar tendencies, (or when my PTSD is gettin' to me) I'd rate my self-esteem at about a 1 or 2... but when I'm on the up-side, it soars to around 8 or 9.[/b] [b]Right at this moment, I'd say I'm swinging toward a downward spiral, so I give myself a 3 and falling... but I have begun to realise that it's not a stable opinion of myself and that it's the nature of my disorders... [/b] [b]Within a few hours- or perhaps a few days, I'll enter another manic swing (or quit having flashbacks for a while) and think much better of myself... [/b] [b]Relising that I have psychological issues that exacerbate my self-esteem issues doesn't necessarily make me feel any better when I'm despising myself, however...:animeangr though you'd think it should...[/b] [b]So where are you at on the scale, and why?[/b]

[QUOTE=wrist cutter]Then you're going to piss me off. I can be angry and resentful even if I don't have any sort of rationale for it. There's nothing to stop me. But stupid is an opinion. Whether or not the rule is stupid is irrelevant. A rule is a rule - that goes above opinion. It doesn't matter what you or anyone thinks unless they have enough influence/money to do something about it.[/QUOTE] [b]You very well can be angry an' resentful. There's no rule stating you can't.:D [/b] [b]I have to disagree that it's an irrelevence. Wouldn't it be stupid to follow a rule that said that you had to wipe your butt with a fistful of throwing stars? [/b]

[QUOTE=James][color=#b0251e] But that does not mean that the world was somehow formed without God -- I do not believe that science and God are opposites. So I agree with Azure on that. In fact, I like to think that if God exists, he himself is the creator and instigator of the various natural sciences (or the scientific understandings of our world). I find that pretty logical, in any case. [/color][/QUOTE] [b]Yeah- I'm with you on this one. That was my point... that logically, God could've created us in a scientific manner. [/b]

[QUOTE=AzureWolf][color=blue] Don't you think that's like asking how to get to point B from point A and not knowing where point A is? [/color][/QUOTE] [b]No, I don't think it's like that at all... did you see this part o' me post?[/b] [i][b]I have no desire to forget about the past... but I do find the "religion vs science" thing a wee bit irritating, seeing as there cannot be tangible evidence of God's existence, and the scientific mind generally thinks only within the confines of the tangible and directly measurable. [/b][/i] [b]I actually really love History... but the unknown parts of our history are still only theory and speculation...[/b] [b]So it's more like asking how to get from Atlantis to New York, if you take my meaning[url="http://www.otakuboards.com/misc.php?do=getsmilies&wysiwyg=1&forumid=0#"]:smirk:[/url] .[/b]

[QUOTE=Simplicity][font=Comic Sans MS][color=darkred] Yes of course, look to the future or to say where we are now. But do you truly want to forget about the past?...or just leave it as is. of course nothing will change about the past, but it will give a better understanding. Looking ahead is nieve, you have to loo at both past and present to give your future a better understanding....so i say. Generic, i truly do agree with your theory. ^.^[/color][/font][/QUOTE] [b]I have no desire to forget about the past... but I do find the "religion vs science" thing a wee bit irritating, seeing as there cannot be tangible evidence of God's existence, and the scientific mind generally thinks only within the confines of the tangible and directly measurable. [/b] [b]Until God can be observed with the five physical senses, and can therefore be measured with the precision of scientific protocol, people will argue and argue and argue. [/b] [b]I truly do believe that (some) God created us to conform to the laws of science and evolution- that we were created from (and to be) a spiritual being... and that we have since physically evolved in order to withstand the changing environments of our planet.[/b] [b]I do, however, have an obnoxious habit of living in the grey... not because I can't choose a particular side of an argument, but because I usually believe both sides simultaneously...[/b]

[b][size=1]Personally, I am rather fond of something called "immediatism". [/size][/b] [b][size=1]That is to say, that I really don't care too much about the origin of man- and am much more interested in where we are at right now.[/size][/b] [b][size=1][/size][/b] [b][size=1]Who's to say that both popular theories of our origin aren't correct- perhaps God created the Big Bang and that it was within His design that we should evolve in order to survive over time...wouldn't that just irritate the hell out of everyone if the debate was suddenly stopped?:D [/size][/b] [b][size=1][/size][/b] [b][size=1]Wherever our species came from, here we are now... neh?[/size][/b]

[QUOTE=SakuraMinomino][color=darkgreen][size=1][b]Who would you like more-[/b] [b]1) *Guy walks up to girl at the bar* "Hey, can I buy you a drink?"[/b] [b]2) *Guy walks up to girl at the bar and looks at her for a few seconds* "Wow, your eyes are so pretty in the light like that. What's your name?"[/b] [b] (though I am not yet drinking age, so I SUPPOSEDLY wouldn't know...) [/b][/size][/color][QUOTE] [b]I am of drinking age, and I can say without a doubt that I would prefer the first. Why? Because what he said wasn't really a pickup line... the ones that use a pickup line at the bar are usually really creepy or just plain dumb.[/b] [b]You can't believe that a stranger who's first sentence spoken is a compliment of your eyes is speaking genuinely, but offering to buy you a drink is simply an offer to buy you a drink.[/b]

[quote name='Mouse][size=1'] I can't imagine living anywhere where I wasn't loved.[/size][/quote] [b]Good- I'm glad that you've never had to experience that... it truly sux, and I love hearing people say that they can't imagine it, because it's assuring to know that there are still real, loving families out there:animesigh .[/b]