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[SIZE=1][FONT=arial][COLOR=green]Will you keep your surname when you get married if you are a girl?
Boys will you let your wife keep their surname instead of yours?
i would no matter what anyone says, i'm keeping mine, and if he tries to discourage me he won't be at the wedding instaed he'll be at the hospital praying for his life! anyways i'm not having my name being Anna Nguyen Simpson or Anna Simpson...[/size][/color][/font]

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I would expect my wife to take on my surname. It's just how it works traditionally and it?s what I've been brought up with. Though not having being in the position my view might change depending.

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[color=royalblue]Believe it or not, I'm with cloricus. I was raised this way, and although some women mistakenely believe that it "takes away their identity..." I don't even like my last name! Either way it doesn't matter much. If my future husband is trustworthy, loyal, a protector, honorable, and truly loves me, what do I have to worry about?[/color]

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I don't like my last name as it is so I think if I ever get married, which would be rare anyway, I wouldn't mind changing it. Either way, I don't understand how someone becomes attached to a title, changing your last name doesn't obliterate family ties so I guess, to me, it really is no big deal.

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To be honest...my last name fits every other name. My last name is from an italian origin, and it fits any other last name...and I wouldn't mind if my wife doesnt get my last name, I mean its her decision really. But it would be nice.

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I [i]despise[/i] my last name X__x not for any particular reason, i just don't like the way it sounds.
So i guess if me and my girlfriend were ever allowed to marry (which probably isn't going to happen anytime soon) I'd take on her last name. I like her last name its cool ^_^[/color]

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I'm the youngest of four kids. When my sisters married, they took their husbands' last names and my sister-in-law took my family's name when she married my brother. You can see we've been raised in a more traditional sense as far as marriage goes. However, we've also been raised to feel that if the "norm" doesn't make us happy, to change it. Not to settle, you know?

With that in mind, I'm still not sure. I'd like to keep my last name. I like it, it flows well with the rest of my name, and it's something that has always been important to me. Even when kids in grade school changed "Mikus" (pronounced Mike-us) into "mucus" to tease me, I never said "I hate my last name. If I had a different last name they wouldn't tease me." Number one, I knew they'd just find something else to make-fun of. Number two, I was proud of my name, I didn't want a different one.

Tee hee...when I was little I used to tell my mom I was going to adopt twins and tell them their daddy got lost in the Bermuda Triangle. That way I wouldn't have to change my last name. ^_^;

Will I change my surname? Hopefully not. If my husband isn't willing to take my name, hopefully he'll settle for a hyphenated name or something along those lines. Really, I'm not all that worried about it. The man I marry will be agreeable without being a pushover. We'll find something that makes both of us happy. ^_^

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[FONT=arial]if I were to get married (lol), I'd take on my husband's last name. I mean, I love the guy enough to marry him, wouldn't it be kind of contradictory [i]not[/i] to take his name? it's the least you could do. it's just a name. meh, I had a really good way to put it, but I just lost it. maybe I'll get it back.[/FONT]

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[COLOR=deeppink]O.k. I can actually put this down for personal experiance.
I've been married for a little over a year (1yr and 3 months 7, December) My military ID has my husband's last name on it, but that wasn't really my choice because I got the ID the day before i moved to TX and I hadn't quite decided what I was going to do since I had only been married for 3 days.
However a few months after that I had to renew my driver's license so I went to the Killeen DMV. I had decided two months after my wedding that I was going to have my name and my husband's. I told the lady that I wanted it to be D-C then my first name.
The lady gives me this mean look and says, well, I can't, if I do that your middle name won't fit. After a few minutes of convincing teh woman to just put my middle initial on the lisence I finally exclaimed-Dammit lady, it's my name. Put it on my lisence!
So to answer the question, I still have my maiden name along with my married name. Lincoln doesn't have a problem with it. We're not traditional anyway so why should we try?
Besides, I'm only Mrs.Lincoln C. to my grandma[/COLOR]
[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by cloricus [/i]
[B]I would expect my wife to take on my surname. It's just how it works traditionally and it?s what I've been brought up with. Though not having being in the position my view might change depending. [/B][/QUOTE]
[COLOR=purple]My husband never knows what to expect from me in the first place. And as I said, we're very unconventional. However, we still haven't decided if our kids are going to be hyphenated or have his name.[/COLOR]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Raiha [/i]
[B][color=royalblue]Believe it or not, I'm with cloricus. I was raised this way, and although some women mistakenely believe that it "takes away their identity..." [/color] [/B][/QUOTE]

[COLOR=indigo]My choice had nothing to do with identity loss, I've just always been fond of my Maiden name. It's a very good strong Irish name. My husband's is nice too-except that it's easy to mispronounce. Besides, I love him enough to have his children and do other things for him, I don't think a name really needs to prove that.[/COLOR]

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[color=deeppink]I love the way my first and last name fit together, but when I get married, I'll definitely take on my husband's surname. I've never seen it as a bad thing, I think it's kind of a fun way to show that you've dedicated a part of your life to someone ^_^. It's also an honor that someone [and their family] is willing to share that last name with you.

For my photography, however, I'll most likely keep my current last name following the © symbol. That way older photos before I get married have the same name as the ones I take after. If that makes any sense at all :P

I'm basically the end of the Winter line in my family. My father was the only male born to my grandparents, and since my brother passed away, when I get married it's the end of the Winter last name. I have no problem with this, I almost feel a little devious and special for marking the end of a surname era :toothy:[/color]

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[COLOR=purple]I still say Hyphenation is the way to go. You show your love to who you marry yet get to keep your maiden name. Really it's one of the best things I've done.
Besides a few years after you marry someone you eventually have children and I think that's a much bigger sign of love than just a name.
Of course, then you get to the part about what surname the child is going to have. Are you going to give him or her the husband's last name or have it hyphenated like yours? luckily I've got nine months to deiced.:rotflmao:[/COLOR]

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Must be a thing with English-speaking people or something.

Here in Quebec, it's now quite rare married women takes on their husband's name. Neither my cousin nor my mother did it. My Grandmother did, though. I think it's one of the result of the "Révolution Tranquille" in the sixties/seventies.

Also, the tradition for children to take on the father's surname is quite strong: most children either have composed surnames (My half-sister, for exemple) or the father's name. Actually, composed surnames are becoming so frenquent I'm wondering what will be the resukt when two people with composed surnames marry? :laugh:

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[color=green]I have actually put a lot of thought into this. the conclusion I have come to is that I will take his name. It's short, it's nice, and I'll move up quite a bit in the alphabet...

It's never been too much of an issue for me. I put some thought into it, but I couldn't find a reason not too. I am myself whether I have my name or his. [/color]

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Well, I figure I'd let my fiance (assuming I ever got one) do whatever she wants with her name.

However, I am the only male offspring in ,my family...so if I don't have a son with my last name, that last name wouldn't continue...

I guess I'd just ask my wife if, in the event we ever had son, if we could give him my last name. Huh...guess I'll cross this bridge when I come to it.

What my mom did was to drop her middle name, make her maiden name her middle name, and take on my dad's last name. Compromise, I guess.

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[COLOR=darkred][SIZE=1]Fairly interesting thread. . I will put in my two cents (granted. . no one is asking me . . lol)

I think that if I was to marry a woman, I would want her to take my last name. For one, it IS tradition. Traditionally, the wife takes the name of the husband. The whole marraige thing is about joining two people. .two different people, and making them life partners. . The point of taking the man's name is to symbolize the unity.

I honestly don't know what I would do or say if I had a fiance that wanted to keep her last name. Hopefully it would be something we would discuss long before the thought of marraige. .but you can never tell.

As for Hollywood - women keep their last name because everything is fake there. . people get married for more publicity and to get their name back into the papers. So, they obviously keep their last name so that they aren't forgotten by people. . it's pretty pathetic. -_- Had a talk about this the other day, thus, why I posted here, and posted about celebrities. . lol [/SIZE][/COLOR]

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Guest Eilsel
I am going to take my love's last name. I never even knew that people sometimes didn't take their husband's last name till just a couple of years ago. I fully intend to though. It just feels right. =)

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[color=hotpink][size=1]Well, I plan to take on the last name of the man I marry. It's something that little girls always dream about and I'm sure that when you were a kid, you were so obsessed with some pop culture icon that you pretending you were married and called yourself by the last name, didn't you?

My father had five daughters. FIVE GIRLS! This is the end of the line for the Owens's. My older sisters are already married (Brittney Butler and Aprill Deaton), and so that just leaves the other three of us. If one of us decides to keep our surname, it will live on, but it's not going to be me.

(Maybe Franki? She always said she wasn't going to get married...that is, until recently, heh. And I HOPE Ashley isn't thinking of marriage...)

Ah, my poor daddy. He wanted a little boy so badly but he just got a handful of gorgeous ladies. And we are all gorgeous. Good times. ^_^[/color][/size]

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[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Queen Asuka [/i]
[B][color=hotpink][size=1]Well, I plan to take on the last name of the man I marry. It's something that little girls always dream about and I'm sure that when you were a kid, you were so obsessed with some pop culture icon that you pretending you were married and called yourself by the last name, didn't you?

Ah, my poor daddy. He wanted a little boy so badly but he just got a handful of gorgeous ladies. And we are all gorgeous. Good times. ^_^[/color][/size] [/B][/QUOTE]
[COLOR=indigo]Actually I always wanted to keep my own name and add someone else's to it. I was all things girly except for that one issue. I still am except for that. My husband dosn't mind tho, he thinks it's kinda nice. But we're going to have the kids with his last name, since their first name plus fifteen more letters is a bit much for a five-year old. Heck, sometimes it's even too much for me :rotflmao:
My dad got lucky, a girl and a boy, but my papa (my mom's dad) had three girls as well, so there was no one to carry on the Henning name for that side, but his sister had a boy and the dad ditched the family, so my 2nd cousin is Henning. Coolest thing to know about me tho is that I'm the only granddaughter on my mom's side of the family :)
Oh, and on the whole, it's 'tradition' to take your husband's name, in some cultures the wife keeps her maiden name and adds her husband's name to her own. That's considered tradition for them. So maybe, in some ways I am following tradition?[/COLOR]

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[size=1][color=darkblue]If I get married I will leave it to my wife to choose what she wishes with her surname. Also I think it is arrogant that some males expect their wife to take on their name.

We are supposed to live in a time of free choice and still we have the chauvinists who follow the old ways of the wife does what she is told. A marriage that begins with the husband forcing his wife to take on his name isn't going to last long.

Also I've considered the possibilty of taking on my wife's last name. If women can do it, why can't men. Also it would be a symbol of devotion to my wife and that I love her that much to surrender the name of my family.

Some people say that taking on the last name of the husband is tradition and should be followed. But there are hundreds of traditions that were just as prominent but are totally ignored nowadays. Tradition annoys me somewhat anyway, if people wish to do as they want then unless it harms someone else then good for them.

~TUN[/size][/color]

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Hmm, I'd definately prefer my wife takes my name, especially if my little brother goes gay as I expect he will. I want the family name of "Corbiere" to live on, it's a sweet name, but if my wife wants me to change my name, I'll sacrafice my middle name of "Herman" because I just hate that name.

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[color=royalblue]I would have no problem taking his surname. I have no really claim one-way or the other.
As for my son taking his surname, I would have to say, "NO WAY!? you see name son has my family name and that is not going to change. I mean I would have to love the guy before I married him and he would have to realize my son is my son and he would have to prove that he want t be a dad before anything we have. Nevertheless, that does not mean he get to give he his families name. Our kids, if we had them, would have his name, but I just could not do that to my son. Unless he (my son) wanted it then I would "Think" about it.
THE FIZZ [/color]:wigout:

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